Erotic massage with BDSM elements: features and specifics

In the imaginations of many, erotic massage is something gentle and kind. But what if you desire something different—a bit of “spice”? For lovers of unconventional pleasures, there is BDSM massage, where pain and sensual pleasure intertwine closely.

In this article, we will explore the sexual culture of BDSM more thoroughly.

What is BDSM?

The term BDSM refers to a psychosexual culture of relationships based on the erotic exchange of power and roles of “master/mistress” and “submissive.” The acronym BDSM includes the names of the main elements of this culture:

• BD – Bondage, Discipline: This involves tying up and punishing.
• DS – Dominance, Submission: That is, dominance and submissiveness.
• SM – Sadism, Masochism: Sadism and masochism.

The core of this movement is to increase sexual excitement by ignoring societal and moral norms. In other words, partners find stimulation in activities that defy conventional norms. This can include restraining movement, striking, tickling, etc. It’s important to note that BDSM can be a standalone activity not necessarily connected with sexual intercourse.

It’s impossible to determine exactly when this erotic culture originated. There are references to ropes and whips being used as sexual toys in European brothels as early as 1769. The culture of BDSM began to thrive in Europe in the 18th century along with the success of the provocative writer Marquis de Sade. In his works, he openly discussed various unconventional forms of sexual relationships, including cruel ones, and did not conceal his fondness for dominance and sadism.

The current BDSM culture differs from what de Sade described in the 18th century. Today, BDSM is based on the principles of SSC: Safe, Sane, and Consensual. According to these principles, all BDSM practices exclude violence and open torture that could harm a person’s life or health.

Is BDSM a psychological deviation or not?

Although the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) used in the USA classifies BDSM practices among deviations, they are considered a disorder only if they cause harm to the people who practice them.

The International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11) includes a list of sexual preference disorders, which encompasses some practices belonging to BDSM: fetishism, sadism, masochism. However, it is emphasized that specific ways of achieving sexual excitement that do not lead to personality dysfunction or harm to the health of others or oneself are not considered mental disorders.

Sexologists comment on the provisions of DSM-5 and the ICD-11 list as follows – if both partners consent, it is considered an individual sexual interest, not regarded as something abnormal. A deviation occurs when it contradicts the law and can be dangerous to life and health.

Studies have shown that people who practice BDSM do not suffer more from anxiety, depression, psychological sadism and masochism, OCD, or post-traumatic stress disorder than others. Researchers have also found no connection between addiction to BDSM and sexual or psychological problems.

Why are BDSM practices so popular?

Psychotherapists and sexologists explain the popularity of BDSM by the fact that it paradoxically allows people to feel safe. During sex, partners appear vulnerable, which naturally causes fear of misunderstanding or even rejection. This fear prevents many people from truly connecting.

Any game offers the chance to wear a mask (figuratively or literally), which means protection from traumas and experiences. Moreover, in the game, there are rules and/or roles that also prevent spontaneity. This makes a person feel safer because everything is as predictable as possible.

Another reason for the love of BDSM, cited by psychotherapists and sexologists, is the desire for new sensations. The use of whips and ropes triggers the production of cortisol and adrenaline (stress hormones), which are capable of intensifying all senses. Yet, the feeling of safety remains. It’s similar to watching horror movies—it’s scary, the heart races, but at the same time, you know that nothing bad will happen to you.

Advice from Rabbit Hall

Our BDSM massage is like BDSM for beginners. After it, BDSM will no longer seem incomprehensible and frightening.

Another reason mentioned by psychologists and sexologists is the avoidance of responsibility. Indeed, in our everyday life, everyone carries a lot of responsibility: at work, in family relationships, with children, with friends, etc. In BDSM practices, this responsibility can be set aside—there is a game, it has rules, I act according to rules that I did not make up. Partly for this reason, people in high positions making important decisions at work are so attracted to the possibility of changing roles and shedding responsibility, submitting to the rules of the game.

Main features of BDSM massage

Erotic massage with elements of BDSM is a full-fledged massage with an erotic part that includes practices from the BDSM culture. Let’s look at these practices in more detail.

• Flagellation: i.e., whipping with a whip. This practice most commonly involves the use of a whip. Our masseuses are skilled in controlling the whip to keep the client on the edge of pain and pleasure.

• Bondage: This technique involves partially or completely restricting the client’s movement. We use special ropes for bondage. For those who like exotic practices, you can try shibari – the Japanese art of tying.

Advice from Rabbit Hall

Erotic BDSM massage in our salon is performed only by experienced masseuses who are proficient in safe relaxation techniques. Try it, it’s a very interesting experience.

• Foot fetish: also known as podophilia, is a distinct sexual interest in feet. Clients can request the masseuse to wear heels, stockings, or be barefoot. Wash feet, kiss soft heels, or massage the soles – which scenario will you choose? The most important thing is to remember that if the lady is not satisfied, you will be punished.
• Sensory deprivation: is the limitation or complete deprivation of the ability to see, hear, or speak. The simplest example of sensory deprivation is an opaque eye mask. This technique is focused on enhancing other senses.
• Wax play or hot wax games: One of the elegant ways of inflicting bodily pain. To prevent the client from getting burns, our masseuses use low-temperature candles. The wax from such candles will be hot, but not scorching, and turns into aromatic oil on the skin. The masseuse may drip wax on your back, shoulders, buttocks, and then spread the melted oil.

How does a massage with BDSM elements proceed at Rabbit Hall?

Before the massage begins, you and your beautiful masseuse will move to the shower. Here, you can fully entrust yourself to her gentle hands. After that, you will experience a classic relaxation of the entire body and the most interesting part – BDSM practices according to the scenario you have created yourself.

During the erotic BDSM massage, we can include:

• Whipping
• Foot fetish
• Walking on the body in shoes or barefoot
• Bondage
• Role-play
• Experiments with wax